When Holy isn’t Healthy – Jan 2016

January 3rd, 2016
Congratulations, we made it to 2016!
The year 2015 and the holy holidays have come to a close.
Thank God.
Joy and relief fill the air.
Sounds a bit negative? Perhaps, I am.
When speaking recently with my own 12-Step Sponsor (a mentor), she said “Marcia, you sound angry. In fact, I think you’re still pissed off about some things. Why don’t you do some more writing about your anger?”
Oh crap. I hate it when she suggests that I do things that I tell other people to do. While ruminating that I would now be adding my Sponsor to my angry list; she snuck in the Big Gun.
She aimed and fired. With a crystal-clear voice she quietly said “You don’t have to act or try to be Holy all the time, just be human–OK?
Busted with a complete Bulls-Eye!

So before I scurry off to do some more inner work, I wanted to wish YOU the very best for this New Year.

I look forward to staying in touch.
Sending much love & basking in my un-holy-ness.

Share What You Know!

October 22nd, 2015

Welcome to my new readers and hello again dear ones!

I just back from the Seattle area from giving a well-received keynote talk and workshop to over 600 mental health practitioners.  Thankfully, I have great support in my life that helps me to show up and deliver what I do know.

What am I learning these days?  That my passion and knowledge of healthy aging is growing.  Plus, the tools that I’m able to offer are beneficial for all ages and gender, not just for mid-life women.  For example, on my way home from the conference, a gentleman in his early 40’s, stopped me in the airport and asked if I had a few minutes. He told me that he had wandered into my workshop because I had some empty chairs at the back of the room and the other workshops didn’t. I thought, Oh Boy, where is this going?  

What he shared next, is what blew me away.

I was completely fascinated with what you were bringing together about aging, addiction and recovery.  I’d never heard anyone talk about the impact of how our anti-aging society and attitudes effect our health. And you offer solutions!  Your workshop was my favorite part of the entire two-day conference.  I’m going to share your book with my wife and I know that I’ll be thinking about it with my own life.”

I thanked him with a full heart.  And I thank you for following my blog and passing along my message along to interested others.

What are YOU learning these days?  Share what you know with another person. It could beautifully change their life and yours.

 

Book Signing & Discussion @ Barnes & Noble

December 26th, 2014

Please come and bring a Sister-buddy!

Five Gifts of Pro-Aging:
Honoring Maturity in a Culture That Could Use It

at Barnes & Noble

The Promenade at Westlake

160 S. Westlake Blvd.
Thousand Oaks, CA 91362
Tel 805-446-2820
Saturday, January 24th, 2015
Starting at 2:00 pm

The Promised Land

December 26th, 2014
It’s official: For the first time ever, The Betty Ford Center is expanding their excellent addiction and mental health services to another location. And guess who the Hazelden Betty Ford Center Foundation picked to be their new CEO? Not me.
But they have asked me to be their Program Manager at their new West Los Angeles Outpatient Center. I’m thrilled. I’m honored. I’m tired.
These past five weeks–training, working, walking around the main campus in Rancho Mirage, CA, I have found it to be a dream come true job. Over the past several years, it has felt like I’d been crossing a very long, narrow bridge and now I’ve made to the other side.  Do I hear an Amen?!!
Seriously, in this new land I feel more whole and able to more fully honor my own long-term Twelve Step recovery. And I am looking forward to being able to help many more individuals, couples and families in this new capacity.
To help us celebrate the launch, you’re warmly invited to attend our OPEN HOUSE.
Weds. January 28th, 2015 at 3:00 pm. A free event w/ treats!
Betty Ford Center – West Los Angeles Outpatient Services
10700 Santa Monica Boulevard, Suite 310
Los Angeles, CA 90025
Tel 877-872-7538

You’re Old, I’m Not

October 9th, 2014

A few days ago, I was sitting with a robust group of women who had invited me to come speak. I began the discussion portion with some questions that help us take stock of our own age phobia. What happened next was completely unexpected.

One of the elder women, cleared her throat and said “I’ve never admitted my true age out loud, to anyone. But today, I’ve decided it’s time to tell you all that I am 79 years old.” The entire room gasped. And then the avalanche of ages began. Several more women poured out their story of age denial while promptly admitting the truth of their chronological age. I felt like I was listening to a room full of crack heads that wanted to get clean.

Yes, the forces of aging denial in America are prolific. As I discuss in my book, our mainstream media is more obsessed with celebrity baby bumps and the newest techniques of how to stop-the-clock. It’s rare that we receive news of positive stories for those of us in the second half of our lives.

We’ve all been baking in this Oven of Time. Yet, we still cling for more evidence of our youth. If you’re like many Americans over 50, you think you’re not old and are not like most people over 50. That’s the key finding in a recent AARP survey with 1,800 Americans. Eighty-five percent of respondents told us they’re not old yet. One 90-year old woman said a woman isn’t “old” until she hits 95. So who is old? It just depends who you ask.

What happened with the group of women I described earlier? They began to receive the gift of authenticity. This is a vital step towards building healthier aging attitudes and actions, amidst our harsh culture of anti-aging.

Thank you for your personal pro-aging efforts and your support in helping to carry this timely message to other females in your tribe. I’ll be in Malibu for a Book Signing & Talk this Saturday, Oct 11 at 2pm at the Bank of Books-Malibu in Pt. Dume Village. Hope to see you there!

Do we whine or do we shine?

September 4th, 2014

It’s been fun sharing my new book! It warms my heart to hear that many of you like the ripeness of my pro-aging message.

In our youth-obsessed culture, it’s no small feat to embrace our aging self every single day. To progress on the pro-aging trail, there are “things” that must be uncovered along the way. We no longer have to hide from pain. We feel it and learn to heal it. This also means we get to whine about stuff until we’re done being the victim. And if we’re lucky enough, we’ll be given more time on Earth so that we can move on. Or we can always stay stuck in complaining.

A Nova Scotia store owner recently posted this clever sign as you entered her shop: The deadline for complaining expired yesterday! Returning from Canada a few weeks back, my partner said he wanted to buy the sign.

Was he trying to tell me something? I admit it. These past few months I’ve met my quota for some very legitimate, advanced whining. And now it’s time to move on.

Do you shine or do you whine? If you need more assistance in the shine department, give thanks for something in your life that doesn’t need fixing or healing. If you’re really serious, then try this one: within the next 24 hours give a compliment to someone or something when you least want to.

My friend, the next time you’re in front of a mirror, look into your own eyes and congratulate your wonderful, yes– aging face. I really mean it. Go on a rampage of appreciation about something…please anything. Find your shine!

I’ve got a Malibu book signing & other Peace Day offerings coming up. If you’re local, hope you can join us and bring a friend!   www.MarciaNewman.com

 

It’s official: my pro-aging book is now available!

August 5th, 2014

Thank you friends & family for your support and passing along this message!  Here’s the link to my book:  www.marcianewman.com.

Warm Holiday Greetings & Exciting News!

December 28th, 2013
I’m excited to announce that I finished my book.
The 5 Gifts of Pro-Aging is scheduled for release in 2014.  I’ll keep you posted!
Like the wise men, we have traversed afar through this topsy-turvy 2013.
Conscious living is certainly not for the faint-hearted.  Through the school of hard-knocks, we are now more equipped to expect the unexpected.  Our flexibility muscles have made us stronger.  We are learning to live and age with more  fierceness and compassion. May we each find our daily dose of courage to remain curious and open-hearted.
I look forward to sharing more with you!

 

Good vibes, Bad vibes

June 19th, 2012

“If you think you’re too small to be effective, you have never been in bed with a mosquito.” -Bette Reese

Never underestimate your power to influence the evolution of our world. Humanity continues to evolve (or not) by each one of our choices and actions. You’ve probably heard the message by now, that whatever you vibrate, you create and attract to yourself. In other words, if you’re still walking around with unresolved baggage, this world will be experienced as one rough patch leading to another.

We heal ourselves and help raise the good vibes of our planet whenever we choose forgiveness (instead of blame) and carry compassion (instead of judgement). As you know, it’s much easier to talk it, than walk it.

For example, a person filled with healing doesn’t look for the right partner, she/he becomes the right partner. And then the right partner can show up. A conscious person no longer searches for the meaning of life, she/he brings meaning into the moment.

What vibes are you putting out and getting back?

Source Heals. Love Rules. Ask for Help. Do Your Part.

A little spark of Madness

June 19th, 2012

Happy Summer Solstice Season!
I’m back at the keyboard with fingers flying, passing along a suggested summer tip:
Listen to your brain and do the opposite! Allow yourself a slice of more freedom from the confines of your logical mind. Comedian Robin Williams says it best. “You’re only given a little spark of madness. You mustn’t lose it.”
What’s your summer spark of madness calling you to do or be?