How do you start your day?

July 19th, 2016

“How you start your day is often how your live your life”– Louise Hay

I’ve never been a big fan of the alarm clock.  I’ve got enough adrenaline racing through my bloodstream, thank you.  My preference is try to go to bed early enough to awaken with ease.  Sometimes, I awaken before the sunlight crests our nearby golden hills.  It’s my favorite time of the day.

For several decades now, I’ve been fortunate to have this early morning “me time”.   When I skip it, the world is not right because I’m not connected with the real me.  For years, I’ve worked with clients on creating a morning ritual, the importance of having a daily discipline that positively feeds your heart, cells and de-clutters your mind.  It does set the tone for the rest of your day.

Here are some of my morning favorites that I incorporate when I can…

I try for at least one hour of daily meditation, time for prayers,  journaling feelings, doing affirmations with mirror work, reading 12-Step literature,  listening to inspirational people like Prem Rawat, light yoga stretching or moving my body to music and drinking yummy Tulsi tea.

I’d love to hear what you do to start your day.  Is it a reflection of how you live your life?

Please post your comment here and/or share with us on my Facebook page Gifts of Pro-Aging.

Ageism & the Antidote

June 10th, 2016
It was a normal day.  Let me back up and ask you something. Have you noticed there are less and less of normal days happening? These are what you call “everything is up for grabs” kinds of days.  The important question is how do we take advantage of these rapidly moving energies of change?
We find the antidote.
Defined as 1.  a medicine or other remedy for counteracting the effects of poison, disease, etc. or 2.  something that prevents or counteracts injurious or unwanted effects.
Well, back to my story involving that un-normal day.  Earlier at my mailbox, I retrieve some junk mail and a wrapped magazine.  I notice from the cover that it’s Better Homes and Gardens.  Thinking it must belong to one of my neighbors, I check the address label.  It has my name on it, along with this attached note.
Dear Reader.
Welcome!  I’m sorry to say the MORE Magazine will no longer be published…
But there is good news!  To thank you for your loyal readership, we’d like to treat you to Better Homes and Garden Magazine to round out the remainder of your current subscription term.  And I think you’re going to feel right at home…
I don’t think so.  Not even close.
MORE magazine wasn’t bringing in enough of the pricey advertising money that the anti-aging (turn-back-the-clock) magazines excel at.   Just because magazine moguls aren’t making enough money on the aging population, doesn’t mean we’re irrelevant and  invisible.  In fact, au contraire. The demise of MORE magazine is sending a clear message to the 78 million of us in mid-life and millions of more readership for those 70+.  The disease of Ageism strikes again!
So we continue to roll up our sleeves and re-invent things like our own magazines (it’s called AARP) and others to come.
We become the antidote.
I invite you to join myself & Dr. Elizabeth Plummer, as we slash & burn more age phobia and invite healing laughter through our Aging with Passion workshop on Sat-6/25/16 in Santa Barbara, California.
Here’s my promise:  No one will be turned away for lack of funds. Call me, if you want to attend with scholarship assistance.
If you can’t make the workshop, then sign up for my June Consultation special package offer.
Your True Self will thank you.
Sending you much love, as always.

How much time do we have?

April 30th, 2016

Sitting in a recent memorial service for a friend, I was deeply moved by the gift that was extended to those of us who gathered to pay our respects. In fact, R-E-S-P-E-C-T was given in full Aretha-style, as her niece beautifully belted out the tune for her Aunt Sharon amidst hand-clapping and back-up vocals from our chairs.

We never know how much time we still have here on Earth. Decades? A few years? Days? Hours? Moments? That’s the great mystery, isn’t it. As I looked around the memorial room, I felt such a deep preciousness of this human journey. My heart opened wider and tears started pouring out my eyes and down my face, leaving precious droplets on my lap. More mascara-tears poured out of me while my understanding grew. There was no familiar public-masking or needing to provide an apology for my emotions. Exposure of my grief and my joy was happening without having to check out what other people’s comfort-levels were set at.  I felt free and so alive.

Thank you, Sharon for your heart-felt driven life and all that you have given over the years. I trust that you’re flying free as well.

Be well and give tender-care to yourself and others.


Something You Can’t Lose

February 20th, 2016
Losses. We all experience them. Some losses roll rapidly into our lives in gigantic proportions. In my radio interview this week, the show host’s mother passed away recently (Marcia’s radio show link). With each added year of living, losses of all sizes visit us more frequently–if not daily. Last week, I lost my car key. It’s still missing in action. What does one do when all your losses seem to accumulate into one one big overwhelming pile of you-know-what?!
We can turn to two important things: 1) Learn and practice a simple and effective method of emotional processing and share your life-saving process with a safe person. 2) Every day, practice a way to access and enjoy your true essence within. We do possess something wonderful that can’t get lost!
If you would like more help with the latter, I’d highly recommend that you listen to Prem Rawat live (Event details).
Sending you much love, as always.

When Holy isn’t Healthy – Jan 2016

January 3rd, 2016
Congratulations, we made it to 2016!
The year 2015 and the holy holidays have come to a close.
Thank God.
Joy and relief fill the air.
Sounds a bit negative? Perhaps, I am.
When speaking recently with my own 12-Step Sponsor (a mentor), she said “Marcia, you sound angry. In fact, I think you’re still pissed off about some things. Why don’t you do some more writing about your anger?”
Oh crap. I hate it when she suggests that I do things that I tell other people to do. While ruminating that I would now be adding my Sponsor to my angry list; she snuck in the Big Gun.
She aimed and fired. With a crystal-clear voice she quietly said “You don’t have to act or try to be Holy all the time, just be human–OK?
Busted with a complete Bulls-Eye!

So before I scurry off to do some more inner work, I wanted to wish YOU the very best for this New Year.

I look forward to staying in touch.
Sending much love & basking in my un-holy-ness.

Share What You Know!

October 22nd, 2015

Welcome to my new readers and hello again dear ones!

I just back from the Seattle area from giving a well-received keynote talk and workshop to over 600 mental health practitioners.  Thankfully, I have great support in my life that helps me to show up and deliver what I do know.

What am I learning these days?  That my passion and knowledge of healthy aging is growing.  Plus, the tools that I’m able to offer are beneficial for all ages and gender, not just for mid-life women.  For example, on my way home from the conference, a gentleman in his early 40’s, stopped me in the airport and asked if I had a few minutes. He told me that he had wandered into my workshop because I had some empty chairs at the back of the room and the other workshops didn’t. I thought, Oh Boy, where is this going?  

What he shared next, is what blew me away.

I was completely fascinated with what you were bringing together about aging, addiction and recovery.  I’d never heard anyone talk about the impact of how our anti-aging society and attitudes effect our health. And you offer solutions!  Your workshop was my favorite part of the entire two-day conference.  I’m going to share your book with my wife and I know that I’ll be thinking about it with my own life.”

I thanked him with a full heart.  And I thank you for following my blog and passing along my message along to interested others.

What are YOU learning these days?  Share what you know with another person. It could beautifully change their life and yours.


Book Signing & Discussion @ Barnes & Noble

December 26th, 2014

Please come and bring a Sister-buddy!

Five Gifts of Pro-Aging:
Honoring Maturity in a Culture That Could Use It

at Barnes & Noble

The Promenade at Westlake

160 S. Westlake Blvd.
Thousand Oaks, CA 91362
Tel 805-446-2820
Saturday, January 24th, 2015
Starting at 2:00 pm

The Promised Land

December 26th, 2014
It’s official: For the first time ever, The Betty Ford Center is expanding their excellent addiction and mental health services to another location. And guess who the Hazelden Betty Ford Center Foundation picked to be their new CEO? Not me.
But they have asked me to be their Program Manager at their new West Los Angeles Outpatient Center. I’m thrilled. I’m honored. I’m tired.
These past five weeks–training, working, walking around the main campus in Rancho Mirage, CA, I have found it to be a dream come true job. Over the past several years, it has felt like I’d been crossing a very long, narrow bridge and now I’ve made to the other side.  Do I hear an Amen?!!
Seriously, in this new land I feel more whole and able to more fully honor my own long-term Twelve Step recovery. And I am looking forward to being able to help many more individuals, couples and families in this new capacity.
To help us celebrate the launch, you’re warmly invited to attend our OPEN HOUSE.
Weds. January 28th, 2015 at 3:00 pm. A free event w/ treats!
Betty Ford Center – West Los Angeles Outpatient Services
10700 Santa Monica Boulevard, Suite 310
Los Angeles, CA 90025
Tel 877-872-7538

You’re Old, I’m Not

October 9th, 2014

A few days ago, I was sitting with a robust group of women who had invited me to come speak. I began the discussion portion with some questions that help us take stock of our own age phobia. What happened next was completely unexpected.

One of the elder women, cleared her throat and said “I’ve never admitted my true age out loud, to anyone. But today, I’ve decided it’s time to tell you all that I am 79 years old.” The entire room gasped. And then the avalanche of ages began. Several more women poured out their story of age denial while promptly admitting the truth of their chronological age. I felt like I was listening to a room full of crack heads that wanted to get clean.

Yes, the forces of aging denial in America are prolific. As I discuss in my book, our mainstream media is more obsessed with celebrity baby bumps and the newest techniques of how to stop-the-clock. It’s rare that we receive news of positive stories for those of us in the second half of our lives.

We’ve all been baking in this Oven of Time. Yet, we still cling for more evidence of our youth. If you’re like many Americans over 50, you think you’re not old and are not like most people over 50. That’s the key finding in a recent AARP survey with 1,800 Americans. Eighty-five percent of respondents told us they’re not old yet. One 90-year old woman said a woman isn’t “old” until she hits 95. So who is old? It just depends who you ask.

What happened with the group of women I described earlier? They began to receive the gift of authenticity. This is a vital step towards building healthier aging attitudes and actions, amidst our harsh culture of anti-aging.

Thank you for your personal pro-aging efforts and your support in helping to carry this timely message to other females in your tribe. I’ll be in Malibu for a Book Signing & Talk this Saturday, Oct 11 at 2pm at the Bank of Books-Malibu in Pt. Dume Village. Hope to see you there!

Do we whine or do we shine?

September 4th, 2014

It’s been fun sharing my new book! It warms my heart to hear that many of you like the ripeness of my pro-aging message.

In our youth-obsessed culture, it’s no small feat to embrace our aging self every single day. To progress on the pro-aging trail, there are “things” that must be uncovered along the way. We no longer have to hide from pain. We feel it and learn to heal it. This also means we get to whine about stuff until we’re done being the victim. And if we’re lucky enough, we’ll be given more time on Earth so that we can move on. Or we can always stay stuck in complaining.

A Nova Scotia store owner recently posted this clever sign as you entered her shop: The deadline for complaining expired yesterday! Returning from Canada a few weeks back, my partner said he wanted to buy the sign.

Was he trying to tell me something? I admit it. These past few months I’ve met my quota for some very legitimate, advanced whining. And now it’s time to move on.

Do you shine or do you whine? If you need more assistance in the shine department, give thanks for something in your life that doesn’t need fixing or healing. If you’re really serious, then try this one: within the next 24 hours give a compliment to someone or something when you least want to.

My friend, the next time you’re in front of a mirror, look into your own eyes and congratulate your wonderful, yes– aging face. I really mean it. Go on a rampage of appreciation about something…please anything. Find your shine!

I’ve got a Malibu book signing & other Peace Day offerings coming up. If you’re local, hope you can join us and bring a friend!