Marcia Newman

Psychotherapist, Conscious Aging Consultant & Author

Whine or Shine?

It’s been fun sharing my new book! It warms my heart to hear that many of you are liking the ripeness of this timely pro-aging message.

In our youth-obsessed culture, it’s no small feat to embrace our aging self every single day.  We uncover new “things” in our bodies that weren’t there yesterday.  Our brain “drops” things that we use to be able to retrieve quickly.  It’s easy to begin campaigning on the “complain trail.”

Sure, we need space to be able to whine about stuff.  Or it’s opposite, we stomp around like a tyrant when too many things feel out of control.  I get it.

And if we’re lucky enough, we get more time on Earth so that we can move on.  Or get stuck complaining, over and over.

watching a red night sky

A Canadian store owner posted this clever sign as you entered her shop: The deadline for complaining expired yesterday!  My partner recently stated that he wanted to purchase that sign.

Was he trying to tell me something?  I admit it. These past few months, I’ve met my quota for some very legitimate, advanced whining.  And now it’s time to move on.  Do you shine or do you whine?

If you want a few tips to help you in the shine department, give thanks for something in your life that doesn’t need fixing or healing.  If you’re really serious, then try this one:  in the next 24 hours give a compliment to someone or something, when you least want to.

My friend, the next time you’re in front of a mirror, do this.   Look directly into your own eyes and say “Hello, your wonderful!” Repeat it again while cupping your face with your own hands.  Touch your face in the way that you would with a very special loved one.   Yes, go on a rampage of appreciation about something…please anything.

Find your shine!