You’re Old, I’m Not

A few days ago, I was sitting with a robust group of women who had invited me to come speak. I began the discussion portion with some questions that help us take stock of our own age phobia. What happened next was completely unexpected.

One of the elder women, cleared her throat and said “I’ve never admitted my true age out loud, to anyone. But today, I’ve decided it’s time to tell you all that I am 79 years old.” The entire room gasped. And then the avalanche of ages began. Several more women poured out their story of age denial while promptly admitting the truth of their chronological age. I felt like I was listening to a room full of crack heads that wanted to get clean.

Yes, the forces of aging denial in America are prolific. As I discuss in my book, our mainstream media is more obsessed with celebrity baby bumps and the newest techniques of how to stop-the-clock. It’s rare that we receive news of positive stories for those of us in the second half of our lives.

We’ve all been baking in this Oven of Time. Yet, we still cling for more evidence of our youth. If you’re like many Americans over 50, you think you’re not old and are not like most people over 50. That’s the key finding in a recent AARP survey with 1,800 Americans. Eighty-five percent of respondents told us they’re not old yet. One 90-year old woman said a woman isn’t “old” until she hits 95. So who is old? It just depends who you ask.

What happened with the group of women I described earlier? They began to receive the gift of authenticity. This is a vital step towards building healthier aging attitudes and actions, amidst our harsh culture of anti-aging.

Thank you for your personal pro-aging efforts and your support in helping to carry this timely message to other females in your tribe. I’ll be in Malibu for a Book Signing & Talk this Saturday, Oct 11 at 2pm at the Bank of Books-Malibu in Pt. Dume Village. Hope to see you there!

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